The process of grief is different for us all.

Sometimes the key to balance and awakening is just allowing and resting. There is a quote from the mystic poet Rumi: “This rain-weeping and sun-burning twine together to help us grow. Keep your intelligence white hot and your grief glistening, so your life will stay fresh.”

Away from the usual schedules, expectations and distractions, allow yourself to feel the process. I remember times in my life that I cried until my heart ached. Go with whatever feelings come up – and if it is a deep sadness think of Quan Yin (Kannon). “Listen to the cries of the universe”. Just listen. There is no “my grief’ or “their grief”. Grief becomes just grief. It brings us to awakening, brings us to our Buddhist vow. How may I help?

We can’t force these moments of recognition but we can learn to practice with the difficulties. We continually seek the balance.

Be tender and gentle with yourself. Some days will be easier than others. Live them all, fully.

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